turmoil..

I cried hard today. I'm fine, baby's fine.. but my poor little brother..
He lives with his babymama, who treats him like sh*t. From what I gather, she's selfish, and I honestly don't think she cares about anyone but herself. They have a 2 1/2 year old together. Here are some of the things my brother told me today:
She says she hates him all the time, and calls him worthless -- all the while she does nothing around the house and on is so hung over on her days off that she spends the day puking while her 2 1/2 year old fends for himself. My brother does the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping and is the primary caregiver for their child.
She goes out to the bars a couple of times a week. She always says "I don't know how I made it home." She's so drunk she doesn't even remember how she drove home and usually blacks out shortly after arriving there at 4 in the morning. She's going to kill someone, or herself someday... Plus.. what kind of example is that to set for your child?
She thinks going to the bar a couple of times a week is "normal" and that my brother is boring because he likes to stay home and play with his kid. Geeze.. where did she learn how to be a parent? going to the bar a couple of times a week and getting wasted is NOT normal, nor is it healthy..
When my brother is at class, or has to run errands or work late, my nephew goes to a baby sitter. His sitter has him so much, he calls her "Aunt".. She even takes him to church with her on Sundays because, why not? He's already with her, right? Even her dad has made comments to her about a "stranger" bringing her child to church..
When she gets mad, she goes shopping and spends all of their money. Money my brother pays towards child support and is supposed to go towards my nephew. My nephew gets very little, but his mom just bought a 400 dollar coach purse, a new blackberry, and 5 new pairs of shoes at the mall. I can't remember the last time my brother got anything new.. or my nephew for that matter..


My heart breaks that my brother lives with such a person. He loves her, but I'm not so sure about her returning the favor.. The more my brother talked about how their relationship is, the more I wished I lived in the same state as them.. I'd go over there and have a nice "chat" with her about what it's like to be a responsible adult, and how to be a mother and respectable partner. My little brother is sensitive, and it seems like she walks ALL over him.. and he lets her because he doesn't know any better.. This is NOT what I had envisioned for my little brother when it comes to him choosing a partner.